Is He/She THE One?

Is there really such a thing as THE One - the one person you are meant to spend the rest of your life with? If there is, how do you know if the person you are in a relationship with right now is THE One for you?

There is no clear cut answer or secret window to your future together. But you can sit back and look at what you have together.

Most importantly, for you to even consider this one as THE One, you need to love each other. Are you sure he/she loves you? How can you tell? Here are some sure signs that your partner is in love with you!

  • Unselfishness - They constantly and consistantly demonstrate their unselfishness towards you. They show you charity.
  • They keep other people out of your relationship - They love you and they are mature enough to love you and not have your every move verified by their friends or family
  • In a Crowd - They are focused on you. They don't suddenly take more interest in your friends when they are around.
  • Smiles - They smile at you often
  • Deep Caring - They care deeply about you, your health, your well-being, and your happiness. Their words and actions reflect this caring.
  • Space - They give you enough space to be all that you can be.
  • Support - They support you and your decisions and commitments.

If you are truly loved, you should:

  • Feel Good! True loves makes you feel happy about yourself.
  • Look forward to spending time with your partner. You no longer need to fill a room with other friends. The two of you are comfortable together alone. Even you have nothing special planned, you look forward to spending time together.
  • Be honest with each other. You tell him/her everything about yourself
  • Feel respect for your mate. You are proud of him/her and always want to talk about them and brag about their talents/skills to others.
  • Feel genuinely interested in what he/she thinks, even if you disagree.
  • You accept your partner's quirks. You tolerate their quirks and even may find them endearing. If you find them really bothering you, then this isn't "THE one".
  • Work through your problems together. You won't always agree but you tackle each disagreement as an opportunity to grow and learn more about each other. You don't think every argument leads to a break-up.
  • Feel safe. You aren't afraid of losing one another.
  • Be unable to explain why you are together. You are together because you want to be - you don't have to coordinate your lives so you are together, you just are together because you want to be together.
  • Still want to be with each other, even when either of you is grumpy or tired.
  • Have no desire to compare your partner to others. There may be other people who are smarter, or better looking, or more athletic, but you don't care because this is the only person you want to be with.

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