How Can I Be Nicer to My Loved One?

You have decided to "stay in" the relationship, but you recognize that things definitely have to change if this relationship is going to work this time!

This article teaches you how to be nicer to your significant other. I know you sometimes cringe when you reflect on the hurtful words you have said and the mean things you have done. It doesn't have to be like this - you CAN turn things around!

Communication

You can be nicer just by improving the way you communicate! Don't be so stubborn - you know in your head if you had just given all the information instead of your short little sentences - you know you did that just to emphasize that you were mad - he gets it!! Drop it!

Learning how to communicate with each other will allow you both to feel a greater sense of intimacy with each other.

It's the Little Things

Just the little things you do throughout the day, or don't do, can drastically effect your relationship. If you want to be nicer, look at the following list and see how many little things you can, or perhaps the little things you have stopped doing:

  • Be Polite: A little please and thank-you goes a long way. I bet you are politer to strangers than you've been with your mate lately.
  • Smile: Lose the scowl. Add a smile to your face. You want this to work this time don't you? A genuine smile can go a long way.
  • Compliment: A compliment feels SOOO good. I'm sure there is something you can find to compliment your loved one on - after all you LOVE this person.
  • Help: Doing something nice is as easy offering your assistance. It could be anything at all. You can even make it something little to start off with. If your communication is at the point where things are so bad between you two that you fight constantly, then you probably don't want to offer to help clean on the garage, or help her reorganize her bathroom. Pick a small task, something you can do instead of them, like running an errand on their behalf, or washing the car before they get a chance to, or taking their clothes from the washing machine and loading them in the dryer.
  • Surprises: Little surprises go a long way to being perceived as being nicer, making you feel like a nicer person, not to mention making your partner feel extra good and excited to be with you! It can be as big as purchased gift, or as little as re
  • Make Life Easier: Continue doing little things to make your partner's life easier. The toilet paper is almost out - replace the roll, the salt shaker is almost empty - fill it up, his back steps are a mess - sweep them off, her landlord hasn't fixed that leaky faucet yet - give him a phone call. I bet you could think of 5 things you could do RIGHT NOW to make your partner's life just a little bit easier. Try doing at least ONE of them before today is over.

The best thing about being nicer - it makes YOU feel better!

Now don't be so selfish and wait for your mate to start being nicer. It has to start somewhere. You will feel so much better if start right now.

Other Things You Can Do:

Behavioural Marital Therapy - There is a form of behaviour therapy for married couples. A therapist will help the couple learn now to be nicer to each other, as well as teaching better communication, and conflict resolution tactics. Unfortunately statistics show that 1 in 2 couples will revert back to their old ways within a year!!