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 He refuses marriage, we have a 17month old, stay or leave? Message #62
We have been together for almost 3 years (broke up 2x before our daughter was born because he 'wasn't ready for a commitment'). He used to want to get married, but now says it's a waste of money and it means nothing these days-just a piece of paper. His parents went through a nasty divorce when he was younger, and has seen friends' marriages go down hill. He thinks we should just leave things as is, states: "can't I just promise to love and be with you forever?"


I, on the other hand, have always wanted to get married. I come from a family of long-lasting marriages. I feel that being married is more than 'just a piece of paper' and by him not wanting to marry me tells me he's waiting for something better to come along--when I tell him this, he says that's not true-he just doesn't want to get married.

So, I'm not sure what to do. We both love each other (and have a 17 month old daughter together, and live together). Should I just give in and not get married or leave?

ps. we have had some trust issues in the past (going both ways), which he claims has nothing to do with his decision of not wanting to get married....I'm 26 and he's 25

Thanks


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Posted by romie  
Friday, January 15, 2010
02:56:06 EST
 
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The trust issues confuse it for me, i would just suggest that it doesnt change anything and it would make you happier in the relationship


Posted by raiders10  
Tuesday, February 23, 2010
18:28:09 EST



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