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 Help me... Is it worth staying in my relationship Message #56
About 3 months ago I moved in with my boyfriend of 3 years. At the beginning everything was going great. But about 3 weeks ago everything changed from my perspective.

We both work long hours and he also has some recreational activities that he has during the week right after work. I go to his games and are usually together. But come the weekend when we both have to days off. He usually goes out and spends some time with his buddies. That really does not bother me, what does bother me is the fact that he comes home at 4 in morning and drunk.

Due to this drinking I've felt that he has just become careless about our relationship and that the only one that is doing any type of compromise is me. On the days that we both have off we really don't spend time with each other, and the time that we do is usually just watching TV and is usually what he wants to watch. Going to get togethers with friends is a nightmare. Always with a drink in his hand and getting drunk knowing that he has to drive.

I just feel that in a way I am being taken advantage off. I have told him that I have a problem with his drinking and the fact that we usually don't do anything together when we have days off. (being able to be together was the reason we moved in). Am I just a push over, or he just not realizing that he is just taking advantage of me not asking for much in the relationship. I should I be considering a break up or should I be holding on?


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Posted by teserita  
Saturday, September 26, 2009
10:38:55 EST
 
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 I've been there # 82
He is just taking advantage of how nice you are. While he is watchin what he wants on TV and ignoring you at home, I suggest (I have done this it worked for me) that you pipe up and say something casually like "Alright, I'm bored I'm going to meet up with my girlfriend now we are gonna go for a drink in town or something" (that is if you have girlfriends or a sister or even your mum) At this point you will start to get ready to go and get yourself looking nice. Kiss him goodbye. After doing this every time he is ignoring you he will get the picture. When he asks why you wont stay home with him, tell him "because you're not being a very good boyfriend, we're not even acting like friends anymore, you ignore me and we're more like room mates then partners" sometihng along them lines. Good Luck!!!Remember to be yourself and have your own life. You don't live to be his girlfriend, you live for you.


Posted by jess:)  
Wednesday, January 13, 2010
07:13:19 EST



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