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I met lee at a bar I was working at, a few weeks later we were in love. He was on leave, and I was going to move with him across the country so he could be in the army. I couldnt go because I joint custody and I know there would be a fight. He found a way to get out, he had only done boot camp so it was not fully commited yet. Althought yes, I felt honnored and kinda ashamed that he did that for me. He moved in with me, and worked 3 weeks and got a layoff (construction - so it was normal). He didnt give me any money for the bills, he had paid for a few dates, ect but nothing for our bills. We had some problems, that we couldnt control and we helped each other, and bonded even more. He was so great to my kids, the best dad you could ask for. Hands down the best towards my kids. I had some health issues, that putt a huge damper on our sex life, he would get upset about that, but I couldnt do anything, I didnt have insurance, and couldnt afford the test that still need to be done. A few weeks after he got laid off he got the flu, for about 2 and a half weeks, then he hurt his knee was really bad for a while (about a month) it still bothers him, but he could get by and have a job. he would say he was looking, and wasnt. I took another job that allowed me the possiblity to make more money, but I hated with a passion, it was very stressfull and I did not enjoy anything other than the money. I thought for sure then he would get a job.. no, weeks went on, it turned into about 2 months, he work again for 2 weeks, and then quit.. he gave me a SUPPER small amount of bills, which half went to his phone, so It really didnt help at all.  During this time, we still had a pretty great relationship, helped me with my kids, helped with the house and cook sometimes. The best boyfriend hands down, except I couldnt get him to work. I had a big birthday and he went all out, got me everything I wanted and more.. He spent a lot of money, more than anyone had ever spent on my birthday, not only money thing, he put alot into it, it was great! It was pretty much all the money he made on his last job. Then he didnt work for about a week, went and did patch job and made some money for his son birthday. Then didnt work, and I couldnt take it.. I HATE my job, HATE, I come home crying sometimes, and its slowed down where I had to dip into my savings.. I was tryn to save to get a car, and I couldnt do it paying all the bills and his, and then the businesses slowed down a LOT. I told him you need to get a job or leave, we kinda fought about it, he left, came back later that night said he had a job, said he was going to do patch work on roofs for his friend. Well a week went by, no work. I know I can find a man that will take care of me, but I dont know If one will be like this one I have here. He said he has a job, but I could take it. I told him to leave, and It was pretty bad, he riped up a card he got me and a picture of us before I got home. I said I love you but I dont think this is going to work because I need a man that wants to take care of me. Help me, its not only the money but I hate my job maybe I could get another one if you got a job. I keep telling him, all I want is you to get a job that it.. part time! aanything, he said he gave up a good job for me, and yes he did but does  that mean I have to pay for that? I kept telling him I did NOT want him to leave but I needed him to get a job!! I know if he were working I could afford a doctor, and a car! I said I think we have a great chance if you get a job but til then you need to leave....he left. And it seems as if its over but I dont want it too be! I know I could get him back but I need him to get a job.. should I keep trying or should I give up. I love him, and I want to marry him but I need to look at my future.


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Posted by sadnsorry  
Monday, July 13, 2009
03:57:17 EST
 
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