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 Continue my life? Message #31
Ok, here goes the story.
We are a gay couple. I am in my 20s, he is in his 50s.  He is in the US, I am in Europe. I visited him few times because realistically it was easier for me to visit. Don't get me wrong, 'easier' does not mean impossible for him to visit. Just easier for me.

We have been chatting every single day and morning when we would be far away and after a year we decided I should file my immigration papers so we can live together. I literally chose what company should I work for and actually they filled papers. Knowing how hard it is to get in the U.S. these days, we thought how lucky we are.
Well, it took 2 years and still no light at the end of the tunnel. As I showed my immigration intention now I have to get my visa even to visit.
As I feel there is really not much hope (if at all) for me to stay there (even if i get the visitor's visa, which i doubt), I proposed him to move here. Then he started how he cannot move, that his guts are telling him it is not the right thing to do right now, he would need to learn the language, not having friends etc.

I really love him and I do not think I ever loved that way anyone, and I do not have doubts about his feelings, nor that he is cheating on me (having friends there). He is  determined not to come here, although it would maybe mean it is the only way to be together.
I suspect something is going on. Due my nature of job I travel quite a lot and sometimes even have to stay somewhere for months (and years would not be anything surprising either). He always claims (even now!) that once we are together he would move wherever I must go. These are all "good", democratic countries too!

So even though I suspect I will ever find such a great soulmate as he is, I am reluctantly coming to the point where I would satisfy with less but with the real relationship!

Should I just continue my life or should I be patient? We both get so lonely in this long-distance relationship so much that it is something not bearable! Thing is that even if my petition for US immigration gets approved, I would think really really good should I move there. Primarily because of his determination not move here.

Please help! If you have some moral issues regarding gay relationships, treat it as a straight relationship or just move on. Thanks.


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Posted by vanja  
Friday, April 06, 2007
19:54:54 EST
 
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