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 Semi-Long distance Message #24
Im in a semi-long distance relationship. Where my girl Lives in L.A. And i live in Oceanside about a 100 mi. apart. I am in the military and will not deploy. I wonder sometimes if i should stay in this relationship or not because Even though both of us are very busy during the week the plan was when we first started dating to see eachother on weekends alternating the duties of which one of us is driving to eachothers places on that weekend. I have done than more than my share of driving as to where she comes up with plenty of excuses why she cant drive down and i'll end up going up there weekend after weekend. And even on weekends when she's got too much homework (junior in college) to do and cant hang out we'll talk later one the phone and i find out she went out partying because "she got her work done early". So that seems to do some injustice to me. I have talked to her about this a few times and she's very apologetic and sometimes bringing herself to tears. So it confuses me because for the most part it seems like the relationship is un-important to her but when i confront her about it she says she'll try harder to "be a better girlfriend" and there is some talk about her not wanting to leave me. But this has happened numerous times in the past(not all of which i've confronted her about). And to me it feels like she wants a boyfriend but just isnt ready for one and i dont want to get in the way of her studies and be a distraction. Also it could be the fact that she has never been in a "real" relationship before, she only dated in the past. And this is the only thing we fight about, our relationship (to me) seems to thrive in all other aspects. I dunno... am i wrong to request to see my own girlfriend on a more regular basis? Is it that she doesnt care about the relationship or just a lack of relationship experience? Is it worth trying to stay in and work it out are we better off as just friends until school and family are less of a priority? i'd really appriciate some input.

V/R
John


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Posted by gearbox  
Monday, January 22, 2007
15:42:50 EST
 
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 "be a better girlfriend" ! # 35
Man it is not normal .. to try mean it is not the real feeling but will try !!! easy about you self and her feelings .. do not be millitray with her but a sweet lover .. Enjoy with her and with new freinds . It is still too early for her.
"bringing herself to tears" it is hard play to play .. Go and get more fun .. I hope you will get a better life with a wife YOU ARE THE MAN.


Posted by Sam  
Monday, January 22, 2007
17:49:50 EST
 She's Young # 43
She's young and she's in college.  She will never get another chance like this to learn about life, explore opportunities, and have fun like she will right now!  She doesn't want to leave on the weekend, because she wants to be with her friends!! She doesn't want to miss anything by travelling away from there to visit you.

Of course she wants to feel loved by you, but don't push to get her to miss her college fun. Even if you break-up for now so she can be free to enjoy life. It's just not fair to her, and she will come to resent you.


Posted by Lisa  
Monday, January 29, 2007
15:47:52 EST



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